By Dr Adeyemi Agbelusi
“Be humble and give more honor to others than to yourselves” (Philippians 2:3).
Pride destroys relationships. It shows up in a lot of different ways, like criticism, competition, stubbornness, and superficiality. The problem with pride is it’s self-deceiving. Everybody else can see it in us but us. When you have a problem with pride, you don’t see it in your life.
Proverbs 16:18 says, “Pride leads to destruction; a proud attitude brings ruin”
Pride destroys relationships, but humility is the antidote to pride. Humility builds relationships. The Bible says in 1 Peter 3:8, “Everyone must live in harmony, be sympathetic, love each other, have compassion, and be humble”.
How are you and I going to grow in humility?
It happens by letting Jesus Christ begin to control our thoughts and hearts and attitudes and reactions. He’s got to be a part of this. Ephesians 4:23-24 says, “Let the Spirit change your way of thinking and make you into a new person”.
How do you become a new person? How do you start to think in a different way? The basic law of relationships is this: You tend to become like the people you spend time with. If you spend time with grumpy people, you get grumpier. If you spend time with happy people, you get happier. If you want to have more humility, spend time with Jesus Christ.
He is humble. He wants a relationship with you. He wants you to spend time with him in prayer and reading his Word and talking to him. He is humble, and as you get to know him, you’ll become more like him.
“Be humble and give more honor to others than to yourselves . . . You must have the same attitude that Christ Jesus had. Though he was God, he did not think of equality with God as something to cling to” (Philippians 2:3, 5-6)
Pride is the deadliest sin in the Bible. It existed even before the creation of the world among the fallen angels. It is a refusal to bow down to obey God and an analysis of yourself in comparison to others and belief that you are better than them. This is a cause of failure of relationships with God and man and we need to address it today.
What are some of the common characteristics and habits of people you know that you would call humble?
How might you need to change the way you think about other people so you match what Jesus thinks?
What does it mean to give more honor to others than to yourself?
Prayer: Lord, give me to grace to humble myself and walk with humility and meekness before you and honor other people in my relationship above myself in Jesus name. Amen.
(C) Adeyemi Agbelusi